A Time for Mourning

[ music | Samuel Barber – Adagio for Strings (Opus 11) ]

My mother passed away this morning. This is about a year and nine months after her stroke, when I had to admit her to a nursing home, and about 3 years after her diagnosis of dementia, specifically what we believe to have been vascular dementia. In retrospect, I can see the onset was somewhere in early 2002, with significant symptoms emerging in 2004. But she was active and agile into the start of 2008, even though she had have more care at the nursing home than I could provide. She was hit by it quite early in her life, relative to most patients, and sadly the earlier it strikes, the more aggressive it is (and vice versa). If it manages to affect a younger brain, it’s a more severe case, and the prognosis isn’t good. She died at about 8am today, halfway through her 65th year.

She was my only parent, and meant the world to me, we were very close, and I will miss her terribly. But I’m also glad she’s no longer suffering from the cruelest family of diseases, one that robs a person of their memories, their very being. She passed quietly and without much suffering at all. For a short while my site here will be in this monochrome scheme as a form of modern armband of mourning.

I’m leaving for the funeral and mass tomorrow morning, and should be back Saturday. Additionally, I’ll probably be slow on responding to contacts for a bit even after that. Bear with me on that. Please support stem cell and other research into treating Dementia, Alzheimer’s, and other neurodegenerative diseases so that maybe some day soon no families need ever see their loved ones slowly slip away from the inside out, and no one ever need forget who they are. Thanks.



  1. Pseudonymous Coward had this to say,

    April 16, 2009 @ 12:07 am

    Sorry, man.

  2. Stephen Preston had this to say,

    April 16, 2009 @ 2:34 am

    Sorry to hear about your loss, my thoughts go out to you. Peace.

  3. Daniel Glazman had this to say,

    April 16, 2009 @ 2:51 am

    Hello Grey. Like every morning, I started my browser, opened my daily first tabs one of them being planet.mozilla.org… But that was a very sad read today.
    I am terribly sorry to read that, I know exactly what it feels to loose your mother after a long period of fall for her and anxiety for you. My own mother passed away like that four years ago, almost to the day, and it’s still an open wound. This kind of pain never really goes away.

    I deeply regret I am too far away from you to stop by and give some support. Take care, my friend.

  4. Lorry had this to say,

    April 17, 2009 @ 4:14 am

    I’m so sorry for your loss, Grey.

  5. Michael J. Cohen had this to say,

    April 17, 2009 @ 5:07 am

    Sorry for your loss. If there’s anything I or the internet can do to help you, we’re here.

    – Michael

  6. Tim had this to say,

    April 17, 2009 @ 12:14 pm

    My condolences.

  7. Aaron had this to say,

    July 8, 2009 @ 12:51 am

    Sorry for you but glad your mother isn’t suffering anymore.